What Was Promised vs. What Was Done

What Was Promised vs. What Was Done

“No More Foreign Wars”

Promised:

Trump repeatedly said he would keep the United States out of foreign entanglements and end “endless wars.”

Done:

• Expanded drone strikes dramatically

• Authorized airstrikes in Syria

• Assassinated Iranian General Qasem Soleimani, nearly triggering a regional war

• Bombed Venezuelan vessels and openly threatened regime change

• Increased U.S. military presence in the Middle East at multiple points

“America First” (Not Billionaires First)

Promised:

Trump claimed he would fight for working Americans and stop elites from rigging the system.

Done:

• Passed a massive tax cut where the largest benefits went to corporations and the wealthy

• Oversaw record stock buybacks instead of wage growth

• Left working families with temporary tax cuts while corporate cuts were permanent

“Drain the Swamp”

Promised:

Trump vowed to eliminate corruption, lobbyists, and insider politics in Washington.

Done:

• Appointed more former lobbyists to senior roles than previous administrations

• Installed family members in powerful White House positions

• Used the presidency to enrich Trump-branded properties through official events

“Law and Order”

Promised:

Trump said he would restore respect for the law and uphold American institutions.

Done:

• Pressured the Justice Department to investigate political opponents

• Pardoned political allies and donors

• Encouraged disregard for court rulings and legal norms

• Undermined trust in elections without evidence

“Protect Social Security and Medicare”

Promised:

Trump repeatedly said he would not cut Social Security or Medicare.

Done:

• Proposed budgets that reduced Medicare spending

• Supported payroll tax changes that threatened Social Security funding

• Backed Republican efforts to privatize or weaken entitlement programs

“Support the Troops”

Promised:

Trump said he would be the strongest president for the military.

Done:

• Diverted military funds to build a border wall

• Reportedly disparaged fallen service members

• Politicized the armed forces for domestic purposes

“Bring Manufacturing Back”

Promised:

Trump claimed factories and jobs would return to American soil.

Done:

• Manufacturing entered recession before COVID

• Trade wars hurt farmers and manufacturers alike

• Jobs lost to automation and outsourcing were not replaced

“Fix Health Care”

Promised:

Trump promised a “better, cheaper” health care plan that would cover everyone.

Done:

• No replacement plan was ever produced

• Attempted repeatedly to repeal the ACA without a viable alternative

• Millions remained uninsured or underinsured

“Respect the Constitution”

Promised:

Trump swore to uphold and defend the Constitution.

Done:

• Attacked the free press as “the enemy of the people”

• Threatened to suspend parts of the Constitution

• Encouraged efforts to overturn certified election results

“Unite the Country”

Promised:

Trump claimed he would bring Americans together.

Done:

• Governed through division and grievance

• Used race, immigration, and fear as political tools

• Deepened distrust in democratic institutions

The Pattern

Trump’s presidency was not defined by broken promises due to complexity or compromise.

It was defined by saying one thing and doing the opposite — often loudly, often proudly.

“Strong Leadership” (Also Known as Mandatory Praise Night)

Promised:

Trump promised strong, decisive leadership surrounded by “the best people.”

Delivered:

A federal government run like a televised loyalty audition.

• Cabinet meetings looked less like policy discussions and more like an episode of America’s Got Talent: Authoritarian Edition

• Secretaries took turns thanking him for the honor of being allowed to sit at the table

• Praise was not optional. It was survival

• Facts were negotiable. Ego was not

• Competence was secondary to enthusiasm

At one point, senior officials were practically tripping over each other to say, “Thank you, Mr. President, for your historic, visionary, unmatched leadership.”

If you closed your eyes, you couldn’t tell whether you were watching the U.S. Cabinet or North Korean state television.

This wasn’t confidence.

It was insecurity with a microphone.

The Cult, Not the Cabinet

In a healthy democracy, advisors challenge the president.

In Trump’s White House, they praised first, governed second.

• Tell the truth? Fired.

• Disagree politely? Labeled “weak” or “disloyal.”

• Break the law for him? Congratulations, you’re “very brave.”

The message was crystal clear:

Your job was not to serve the country. Your job was to serve the man.

When leaders demand flattery, bad news stops traveling upward.

Warnings get buried.

Reality gets filtered.

That’s how you get:

• Policy made on impulse

• National security decisions driven by cable news

• A government afraid of telling its boss he’s wrong

Strong leaders don’t need applause.

Authoritarians do.

We didn’t watch a president command respect. We watched grown adults audition for approval.

And the scary part isn’t that it happened.

It’s how many people are pretending it was normal.

I honestly feel sorry for many of our neighbors who voted for Trump—not out of condescension, but out of empathy. They were promised prosperity, safety, and stability, and their hopes were real and understandable. Instead, we all lived through chaos, division, and a constant sense that the country was one impulse away from crisis. Our communities weren’t made safer, our costs didn’t go down, and our lives didn’t suddenly get easier. What was sold as strength turned out to be spectacle; what was promised as protection delivered uncertainty. Being misled is not a moral failure—but pretending the damage didn’t happen is how we ensure it happens again.

A SEASON OF HOPE: The Geography of Family

A SEASON OF HOPE: The Geography of Family

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There are moments in life when the world feels a little softer, a little slower, and, if we’re paying attention, a little more sacred. For me, one of those moments happens every year during a long weekend in Colorado that my family affectionately calls Thanksmas. Part Thanksgiving, part Christmas, part chaotic family reunion, and entirely its own thing, it’s become one of the anchor points on our collective calendar.

Years ago our daughter and her boyfriend moved to Colorado. My son and his now fiancé drove out to visit and loved it. They followed them out to Colorado. No matter where life pulls us, new jobs, new cities, new adventures—this is the weekend we circle. We show up. We gather. We laugh until our ribs hurt. We eat too much. We retell the same stories, embellishing them each year like responsible adults. And we simply enjoy being together as the weird, wonderful tribe that we are.

This year, as I sit here in Colorado surrounded by my adult children and their partners, I’m reminded that the real magic of family isn’t in the big events—it’s in the decision to keep choosing one another. Again and again. Year after year.

One of the hardest times for me was five years ago, when I was working in Switzerland and couldn’t make it to Colorado. I had tried to pretend I was fine with it, “I’m in the Alps! I’m drinking hot chocolate! It’s practically cozier than being with my family!”—but of course, it wasn’t. Nothing replaces being physically present with the people who know your history, your quirks, and your questionable sense of humor.

But here’s the beautiful part: my family brought me anyway.

They printed out photos of me—full face, life-sized head, the whole works—and hauled “Flat Tony” around Colorado like some sort of wandering garden gnome. They took pictures of him doing all the things I would have done: eating, hiking, drinking beer, looking confused in gift shops… They even made sure he had his own seat in the car. It was ridiculous. It was touching. It was perfect.

And it reminded me of something essential: family doesn’t always look traditional, or tidy, or perfectly arranged. Sometimes it looks like cardboard cutouts. Sometimes it looks like mismatched schedules and last-minute flights. Sometimes it looks like adult children and their partners choosing—actively choosing—to hold space for one another in a world that keeps trying to rush us past the moments that matter.

This season, as the year winds down and we all start taking stock, I’m holding onto this truth:

Time with the people you love is never guaranteed, always precious, and absolutely worth protecting.

So here’s to Thanksmas.

Here’s to showing up.

Here’s to laughing at ourselves.

Here’s to the families we’re born into, the families we build, and the families who are willing to carry around a printed photo of your head when international travel ruins your plans.

In this Season of Hope, may we all find our way back—no matter how far we’ve wandered—to the people who feel like home.